Giovanna Fletcher: 5 Pearls of Parenting Wisdom

Giovanna Fletcher: 5 Pearls of Parenting Wisdom

Giovanna on confidence

“For me having lots of people I follow online really helped me feel like I wasn’t alone. Having that thought in those moments that I’m not the only one that goes through this is such a powerful message because I do think in those moments you feel like everyone else is sleeping, everyone else is doing everything right, you’re the only one that’s getting it completely wrong. I think that’s why in the last few years for me, maybe it just because I’ve become a mum, but it’s been really good that these mummy bloggers and vloggers have come out. I think people are being a lot more honest now. I think people have avoided being honest in the past because they feel like they’re moaning or that they don’t deserve children and actually it’s fine to just go, this isn’t as easy as I thought it was going to be. I think we’re all scared of being judged.”

Giovanna on potty training

“We found it quite difficult at first. We started way earlier than we should’ve done with Buzz really. He just wasn’t ready. He does not care. He doesn’t care if he’s got a wet nappy. He does not care at all. Well he didn’t. So we started last summer and he just wasn’t playing ball at all. It’s been a really big learning curve for me actually because we tried and tried and tried to get him to understand that he’s got to go for a wee and he just wasn’t having it so we were getting really frustrated then one day he sat on the potty but he had his pants on so Tom went ‘no, you’ve got your pants on!’ and then he stood up and started crying and it was too much. So then anytime he tried the potty it was too much, it just didn’t make sense to him so we actually gave up with him because he was getting so stressed with it. Then one day, you know one of those moments when your kids have gone crackers, and he was in a helmet for no reason because he wasn’t on his bike or scooter. He was running around the house with a helmet on and he suddenly went ‘I need a wee’ and he went to the toilet and went for a wee and it was one of the most amazing things ever.”

Giovanna on motherhood

“We’re all going through exactly the same things. We all do what we do to get by we are all individual and our children are all individuals and therefore it’s not a one size fits all. You just have to do what works for you and your family. You can be having the best day ever then one thing will happen and you’ll be completely crushed. But you can also be having the worst day then one thing can happen and it will turn into the best day ever. It’s a roller coaster!”

Giovanna on the lack of sleep

“I used to be the kind of person that could sleep 10 hours a day and still if someone asked how I was I’d say I was shattered. I got a fit bit for my birthday, and now when Tom and I wake up, we have a little competition over how many hours we’ve both had! Our main problem is that we work until midnight and Buzz and Buddy wake really early. It’s an ongoing thing no sleep. I can work on little to no sleep and I’ve found I actually function quite well.”

Giovanna on vlogging as a parent

“Tom gave me the best advice, and that’s to treat the camera like it’s your friend and that’s what I’ve done since day one. I think it’s the best thing. I know this is going to sound really sad but having a baby and writing, you spend a lot of time indoors on your computer and you’re not actually talking to people and that camera gave me a friend. It sounds sad, it is! I found this way of communicating with other people and I know that people might say that my blog and vlogs have kind of helped them but actually they’ve helped me. Doing that has given me such a different outlook on stuff and confidence that just wasn’t there before because I spent so long doing this.”